I have a suggestion for you on how to see yourself without getting obsessed with yourself.

Take a time-out sometime today and make a list of some of the ways you see yourself. Are there any patterns there in those self-images? Are there any underlying beliefs about who you think you are in these images you see of yourself? Way down deep inside, what do you believe about yourself?

This is difficult for people to understand — but, can you comprehend that all the things you believe about yourself have no truth or reality?

That is the truth, you know! All those things you believe about yourself are nothing more than stories you and others have been telling you about yourself. This could go all the way back to early childhood when someone close to you told you about yourself. (I have a great example of this to demonstrate what I’m saying, but it’s too long to put into this comment.)

These stories feel true to you because you believe them. Yet, nothing you believe about yourself is, in essence, true. All these beliefs have shaped your life and your experience of your life. These beliefs are powerful – but they get their power only because you believe them.

Unless you can see that you are not the self-images you are living out, it will be difficult to see who you really are, which has no image attached to it whatsoever.

In Peace, my dear friend!