There has been a common thread running through voice and email communications with friends. So many seem to be caring for others – be it children, aged parents, employees or friends in distress – and neglecting themselves in the process.
It is a wonderful gift to be able to support another in a time of need. However, even the most well-intentioned person cannot help others if they are not taking care of themselves.
Draw on whichever metaphor makes sense to you. It may be a case of killing the goose which lays the golden eggs; it may be that you need to put your own oxygen mask on before helping others with theirs, but the basic message is the same – do remember to get your basic needs met whilst you are meeting the needs of others……..
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Thank you for those kind words. You are right — we do need to take care of ourselves in the process of caring for others.
In my case it’s a dear friend who has, as of this morning, slipped into a coma. There’s little else I can do for her now, but her family needs tons of support. All of us who are left behind as she continues on her journey will grieve because of the empty place she leaves behind — she was a bright spot in all our lives and she will be so missed.
Your words in your post are true — and don’t forget — they apply to you as well.
Peace!