There’s a challenge!
I’ve been reading an interesting book on relationships by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks – Conscious Loving.
To where I have read to date, the message is that we need to become conscious about our relationships otherwise our unconscious mind will automatically be attracted to situations which we have faced in the past in an attempt to get the resolution we sought then – now. If that makes sense.
So the son who lost his mother at the age of 3, who was then fostered by an aunt who died, now finds that he terminates every relationship he has with a woman because at an unconscious level he wants to avoid being abandoned again.
My question is, how do we become conscious; how do we become more self aware without becoming self obsessed? Surely too much navel gazing is as bad for us as not enough?
Perhaps I should finish reading the book and hope that all will be revealed 🙂
In the past I have worked with women who have been victims of abusive relationships (and I know men are also abused…….I just have no first hand experience to quote from there, but I would consider it an honour if you would join the discussion here) and have been saddened to watch them apparently heal and do so much inner work only to almost instantly fall back into the victim cycle once again.
I think, unless this is something you have experienced yourself, it is hard to appreciate how it can possibly happen.
So, I can accept that a heightened awareness is required and that a level of consciousness is required but I do not want to spend all the time thinking about myself and my own needs, hence my original question.